Secondary gains

Imagine that you are a smoker. Being a smoker may help you to fit into a certain personal image.
If you want to stop smoking for health or other reasons, you may still want to keep certain benefits in your personal image. This means that you need to find alternative ways of keeping or developing this image.

If some of your behaviors seem to be negative at first sight, there may be secondary gains that are positive. Find out what they are and find an alternative way of reaching them. Then it will be easier for you to stop your negative behaviors without loosing out on something.